Well that’s easy enough.
Its Simply just the opposite of secure. How sad it is that we can easily forget what makes us secure in the first place. Maybe its because our sense of security changes so frequently throughout our lives. As Babies we liked blankets and pacifiers. As Teenagers we liked headphones and pizza. Yet as adults we choose security in places we would not feel secure with our young. Places where we can hide from our own torment. Without a way to cope…we become insecure. So step one is to find what makes you feel safe. Safety is primal. Something that will always be sought but never need to be taught.